Friday, January 15, 2010

A New Beginning

For the majority of our marriage, my wife and I have enjoyed vanilla sex. We experimented with massage oils and some Kama Sutra techniques. We watched some porn and she bought some pretty standard vibrators and we incorporated them into our play from time to time. Recently, however, we went through some pretty painful experiences involving affairs on both our parts. This is some of the most awful memories both of us share together, but a very special thing happened during the aftermath.

We realized how important we were to each other, how much we really needed each other and how little time, intimacy and effort we had been putting into our relationship. I try to be more open with her about what I want and what I need and do my best to fulfill her needs as well. We have pretty similar interests once we took the time to talk to each other about them. The first months after the affairs, we spent most nights just reconnecting. Talking and holding each other, just feeling close. No television, no music, no distractions. This lead to feeling closer than either of us had felt in a very long time and some slow, sensual lovemaking.

Each time we were together was like a new discovery. I was taking the time to truly enjoy and appreciate her body. Every curve, every moan and whimper was exciting, enthralling. She was just as attentive. She treated me like I was a new toy, freshly unwrapped. Her hands hugged my flesh, caressing my skin with an interest I had been longing for. Her lips sucked on mine, her teeth nipped at my neck. She was everything I needed.

Since then our interests have grown and expanded together in several different areas. After much study and patience, I learned where her G-spot was and how to make her squirt. I’ll talk about this more later, but it was one of the most exciting things we’ve ever done in the bedroom. We accumulated some more toys as well as a few restraints and a paddle. We quickly put those to good use and they are easily some of my favorites. More importantly, we continued to get closer and more comfortable with each other. That may sound strange after being with someone for over 8 years, but it is true.

I still have my bad days, when I get reminded of what happened. She still has her days, too. My affair was more recent than hers, so she had more trouble than me at first. She talks to me about it; I do my best to be patient and help her in any way I can.

We’ve come a long way together and though the last road we took was dark and twisty, I have never felt closer and more connected to her than I do now. She completes and fulfills me in a way I never thought possible. I cannot wait to see what’s next for us.


sarahbear said...

I love you <3

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